UConn men’s coach Dan Hurley details how Geno Auriemma refocused him in new book

UConn men’s basketball coach Dan Hurley admits that his “ego had gotten — was getting — the better” of him following a conversation with legendary women’s basketball head coach Geno Auriemma last season, he writes in a forthcoming book.

In Hurley’s “Never Stop: Life, Leadership, and What It Takes To Be Great,” he writes that after UConn’s 0-3 trip to the Maui Invitational last November in which Hurley was assessed an ill-timed technical foul in overtime against Memphis and railed against the officiating all week, he needed to take stock of his attitude and behavior — especially after his wife, Andrea, told him he crossed a line.

Hurley reached out to Chicago Bulls coach Billy Donovan, ESPN’s Seth Greenberg and lastly, Auriemma.

“He didn’t say anything the others hadn’t. But he delivered the message in a certain way. With force. With gravitas.

He made me really see. My ego had gotten-was getting-the better of me.

I admitted he was right. I told him that I was spiraling. I told him that I was convinced we were going to finish below .500.

‘Listen,’ he said, ‘if the only gratification and the only part of coaching that excites you is winning the national championship, then you’ve lost your way, buddy! Where’s the joy in the things that you’ve always been about as a coach before you went on the championship run, like relationships with your players, like helping people get better. Like making your team the best it can be.

‘Be a coach, man. This is when you really need to be a leader. This team isn’t as good as last year’s, so what the hell are you going to do about it? Are you going home? Are you going to let this thing unravel?'”

Hurley writes in “Never Stop: Life, Leadership, and What It Takes To Be Great”

In a recent interview with ESPN, Hurley said his conversations with Auriemma helped him correct the ship on a personal level.

“The book lays out both aspects of things. I’ve handled failure in my life pretty well, I’ve battled, I’ve kept going, I’ve kept trying to work on myself, kept trying to improve, my career, my personal life. But then there’s also times where you don’t handle success as well as you’d like,” Hurley told ESPN.

In the book, he describes the jolt of that stretch: After winning back-to-back titles and even fielding an offer from the Los Angeles Lakers, it felt like an 18-20 month run where everything broke his way. Then came Maui — three straight losses — and the glow vanished.

“I unraveled some out there, emotionally and with leading the team. But that moment with Geno, that was a good moment for me, it was like a three-week Band-Aid. It cured where my mind was at. Once you realize you don’t have a national championship team, that hits you, that Band-Aid of conversations that I had with him, it stabilized me,” Hurley said in the interview.

Hurley also writes in the book that he considered resigning as UConn’s head coach and taking a year off, a development first reported earlier this month by The Athletic.

Days after the Huskies’ season-ending NCAA tournament loss to Florida — after which there was another viral moment of Hurley complaining about the officiating — Hurley says he was worn down by the last few years and the general state of college basketball.

He expanded on those thoughts to ESPN — and also explained why he ultimately decided to stay.

“I think some of it was being a bad loser. I was clearly a bad loser at the end of that game,” Hurley said. “We were playing the longest possible seasons, having extremely busy offseasons. There are different responsibilities you have as the top program in the sport, responsibility to do everything, promote college basketball, add that up with all the changes with NIL and the portal and what your team looks like the day after your season’s over. You don’t feel like pretty much anybody is on your team. Even if they’re not in the portal, every kid has an agent, and that agent is shopping you around. All those things, the offseasons that were short and packed and the long seasons and incredible dominant success in that tournament, being fatigued, being a sore loser, those things for a couple days put me in that spot.

“But in the end, Jaylin Stewart and Only Ball were like — within a day or two, those guys coming in and saying, ‘We’re staying, we’re not even trying to negotiate, whatever you want to give me, I’m here.’ That’s what kind of snapped me out of it. Along with thinking, I’m never going to be the coach at UConn again and being the coach at UConn changed my life.”

“Never Stop: Life, Leadership, and What It Takes To Be Great,” which Hurley wrote with Ian O’Connor, comes out on Sept. 30. (The Auriemma excerpt was reprinted by permission of Avid Reader Press, an imprint of Simon & Schuster, Inc.)